tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5762173204618404507.post7581006681253709792..comments2023-05-08T00:26:08.675-07:00Comments on The Virgin Single: peer pressure and virginityflamencokittyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07665114298186254835noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5762173204618404507.post-3241022570455872612010-11-20T16:03:22.163-08:002010-11-20T16:03:22.163-08:00Thanks Jay! That wasn't offensive. I totally ...Thanks Jay! That wasn't offensive. I totally hear what you're saying. It's stuff I've been rolling around in my head. I don't want virginity to be an obsession or something that inhibits a healthy relationship. I think, in terms of human development, saying, "No sex til marriage," makes sense when a girl is a teenager. It's protective. Your body and emotions are really sensitive at that stage (not to mention most teenage girls aren't ready to be moms, should contraception fail or be avoided). Having a sex with a guy and breaking up with him could really mess a teenage girl up emotionally. But in the late 20's? I think I can handle it. I think purity is about being fully you, being authentic, being a whole person, not trying to follow rules to the letter.flamencokittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07665114298186254835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5762173204618404507.post-41303715090816211792010-11-07T12:59:42.223-08:002010-11-07T12:59:42.223-08:00FLAMENCOKITTY
Me again, theycallhimjay.
This i...FLAMENCOKITTY<br /><br />Me again, theycallhimjay. <br /><br />This is a really honest post you put up here. The morals and ideals a Christian upbringing puts in a person's head can really leave a person conflicted. When we are children, we are pounded over our head that "sex is bad outside of marriage" and in our little isolated lives as children we have no other choice but to follow along. But when we grow up we quickly find out that there is MUCH more to it than that. Yes you are correct in thinking that people who are sexually active are not "bigger sinners." In the eyes of God, we are all sinners and there really isn't too much we can do about that. Lucky for us God isn't petty, and lets keep in mind that sex is one of the many gifts God has given us (and trust me, it's a GREAT gift). I just think you are putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. Times change, ideals change, thats just a fact. Don't spend the rest of your youth hanging onto ideals that just aren't valid anymore. Now I'm not saying you should go out and bang the first guy that will have you. I'm no advocate for casual sex or multiple partners or anything like that. Just don't let your obsession (yes I took it there) with virginity be the driving force in finding a relationship. <br /><br />This idea that marriage is some kind of solution to all things is really a myth, just take a look at todays divorce rates. <br /><br />I know the kind of guy you are looking for, and yes they are hard to find. But if you look in the right places and assert yourself you are guaranteed to get one. Trust me, they do exist.<br /><br />And when you find that guy, a guy who is funny, modest, shy, and just the right amount of geeky, he's good to you, makes you smile, laugh, and feel like you are the only woman on the planet, just let things go naturally. Don't push him away with this "you ain't gettin' any till you put a ring on this finger" business. It's only going to push people away. Just enjoy each other and when the time comes and it feels right let go. Believe me, you won't regret it.<br /><br />I hope this comment doesn't get interpreted as confrontational or negative. I really wan't to see you happy and with a decent guy. I've been in your shoes before and I know the pressure others can put on you and what you put on yourself can be overwhelming. All I can say is you just have to do what is right for yourself.workintheroomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10526831226011976884noreply@blogger.com